Although I'm a red blooded female, I've never really given much thought to "types". But it got me thinking about what I've learned about myself, and what things are particular "turn-ons" and "turn-offs" for me. I'm not talking here about physical traits, but character traits. I suppose we all have an image of our ideal mate, and also have a mental list of "deal-breaker" behaviors in another person. Have you ever actually listed them before? I took a stab at it, and thought I'd share my lists with you. I'm sure this list says a lot about me, so please be gentle - ha!
Men, I'm not speaking for all women here, just for myself. Ladies, you may or may not agree with this list. To each his (or her) own. I hope that guys and gals alike will send me your lists as well! Who knows, your #1 pet peeve might be 'People who write stupid blogs about their turn-offs and turn-ons'. If so, please accept my apologies, and delete-delete-delete!
So, with very little thought, and right out of the the top of my head, here is my TOP 15 TURN-OFFS AND TURN-ONS in a significant other. (I'm using the pronoun "he" because I happen to be a hetero female. You can plug in your own pronoun.)
MY TOP 15 TURN-OFFS
- He’s a conspiracy theorist.
- He talks endlessly about himself but never asks me about me.
- He has a drunk alter-ego.
- His favorite movies are Vin Diesel and Steven Segal films.
- His only hobbies involve television or computers.
- He uses poor grammar.
- He is negative and has issues with everything and everybody.
- He flirts with other women and is a 'playa'. (Oh h*ll to the no.)
- His former girlfriend is hurt, dead, or missing.
- He’s unreliable and/or dishonest.
- When dealing with conflict he errs on the side of being harsh rather than being kind.
- He cannot control his anger.
- When I start talking, he picks up his cell phone to check on things, and acts like he’s listening. I know he's not.
- All of his friends warned me about him.
- He's emotionally closed and doesn't communicate with me.
- He’s 50+ years old and spends his weekends playing Xbox and eating Cheetos.
- He holds grudges and is unforgiving.
- He has no sense of adventure. He never tries anything new, goes anyplace new, or makes new friends.
- He’s always the loudest person in the room.
- He thinks a NASCAR race would be a great way to spend a romantic getaway weekend.
MY TOP 15 TURN-ONS
- He makes me laugh.
- He is positive, supportive, and encouraging. He gives sound advice.
- He’s a go-getter but knows how to relax and have fun. He has healthy boundaries with work time and personal time.
- He’s generous with everyone in his life.
- He tells me when he’s angry, hurt, or unhappy about something, and doesn’t hold it inside.
- He loves being outside and doing outdoorsy things.
- He keeps his promises and is loyal.
- We each have our separate friends, and also our “together” friends, and it’s all good.
- He likes to try new things – places, food, music, meeting new people.
- He is confident and secure, yet humble. (This is a biggy for me.)
- He can cook!
- He is creative, smart, and expands my horizons. He challenges me.
- He is spontaneous and loves to surprise me.
- He loves me for who I am, not for who he expects me to be.
- He is passionate about life, and about ME.
Okay, there you have it. My "TURN-ON and TURN-OFF" lists.
So, what things are on YOUR list???
